"You don’t look Muslim. I get that a lot, especially after my voguish hair cut. This question doesn’t faze me at all. The questions and suggestions after my spectrum piercing have made me an expert at handling such curiosity. I have a template ready for every age-group. Those who know recording artist Ruby Rose, get to hear the real story. Those who don’t, get a portion of my imagination. Scalp allergy and sacrificing for a wish are my usual cards. For the piercing, I take shelter in my grandmother’s Pathani origin. I start with the traditional name of the ornament, Bulaki, and end at my desire to keep my grandmother’s tradition alive. After this piece is published, I may have to redesign my ripostes.
I did not chop my knee-length hair to make a statement. It was simply done to live up to my mood. I was bored and I wanted some streaks and buzz up there to be able to think fresh. While watching a video of DJ Rose, I shared the wild thought of chopping my hair with a friend. My friend suggested that I should do it immediately, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to ever face the scissors. There weren’t any ladies’ or unisex parlors around, so we went to a gents’ salon and they generously agreed to be a party to my adventure.
I wasn’t sure about how my family was going to take it. My father was in a meeting when I walked in wearing my new look. He seemed unfazed and finished his meeting at the usual pace. After his colleagues dispersed, he gently moved his fingers in my hair and asked what had happened to it. He was just curious, may be a little stunned, but not angry. After all, my father had brought his daughters up with freedom as the foundation.
I received similar responses from my inner circle. They liked or disliked my trendy appearance based on their aesthetic instead of their religious or cultural mores. I often tell people, who are surprised at my being a Muslim, to think of flora on rocks. Their zeal to live pierces the heart of the stone. The same applies to women, regardless of caste, creed or background. We have and we will find our ways to live and express ourselves."